I frequently find myself in conversations with other women about the voice we hear inside of us. You know, the voice that in a moment's time can belittle us and pick us apart until no outfit feels worth wearing and we find ourselves scowling at the reflection in the mirror. It baffles me how one day I can assemble a fresh, chic ensemble in two minutes, while other days I wind up with a pile of clothes on my bed that are boring, unflattering and all wrong.

Maybe you've left that little voice in your past, and to that, I say, well done my friend. You've conquered a battle I still wage war against more often that I'd like. Sometimes women mistakenly think that if you're leading in ministry or have your life seemingly put together that you never doubt yourself or struggle with listening to that little voice. To that I say, HA! I WISH!!

I really do wish that it were that easy and that we all reached a threshold in our lives when we stopped questioning our inherent worth and beauty.

For me, it comes and goes in waves. It generally comes when it's that time of the month and all is wrong in the world except wine, chocolate, and the perfect combination of salty and sweet.

Sometimes it lingers through seasons of change/transition that leave me feeling uprooted and uncomfortable. Ahem... moving from sunny, palm tree land, with oceanfronts and familiar faces to humid, frequently rainy, middle of nowhere and misunderstood by everyone land. Yipee!!!!

Recently though, I've been uplifted. In bold and beautiful ways.

The Lord has used the voices of the women that know me best scattered around the world to speak brilliant truths into my life. Women from all different seasons of my life, some of which I talk to frequently, and others that I connect with once in a blue moon.

God has spoken so specifically through these women it's completely blown my mind. I am feeling lifted up, both spiritually and physically, by their encouragement and kick in the pants to remember who God is and who he created me to be. They remind me of the Lord's faithfulness in the past, and they have told me what I need to hear - which is not always what I want to hear.

Once again, I am wooed by Jesus' tenderness that I discover in authentic friendship. Jesus is so present to me in the women who have said "yes" to journeying through life with me. They reveal the relational heart of our Lord who is attentive to all our aches, questions, and outfit changes. Through these women, I am challenged to become the woman that God is calling me to be - and he keeps calling me forth into virtue and holiness through their voices.

Who are your voices of truth?  {name them}

When was the last time you had a heart to heart with one of them?

Chances are you will fall into one of these three categories:

  1. If you're smiling as you reminisce on a recent conversation, then say a prayer of thanksgiving to God for that woman and let her know how much she means to you. Write her a card, send her flowers, or a little "thinking of you" gift to let her know how much you value her voice of truth in your life, and be hers too.

  2. If you're feeling left out because it's been far too long since you've connected with someone who lifts you up and challenges you, then pick up the phone and do it. Right now. And don't be afraid to say, I miss you or I need you right now. Swallow your pride and ignore the lies that they won't have time or they don't care, because they do and if they're one of your best friends, they will make time!

  3. If you're tearing up because you can't think of one person to call, well I kind of want to give you my cell phone number, but aside from that, ask God to bring this woman into your life. He longs for you to have life-giving friendship. I am saying a prayer for you right now, and for the woman that he will bring into your life to be a voice of truth for you. Jesus is for you, sweet girl. You are not alone, and you are so loved.

While I am in the midst of a transition, which I like to describe as awkward and uncomfortable, while also adventurous and unpredictable, I want to stop and take a moment to celebrate the women who are voices of truth in my life. You know who you are, and I most likely sent you a sappy text/card/GIF recently because my heart is flooding over with love and gratitude for the way you continually change my perspective from defeated to championing through every challenge with passion and grace.

Praise God for the voices that speak straight to our hearts. Can I get an Amen?

"As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another."Proverbs 27:17